Do you know that you always talk to yourself? We all do it. Our communion makes a huge difference in our lives in a better or worse situation. The question is to ask yourself that your inner voice is your friend or enemy.
Our consciousness is affected by words just as other people talk to us. So how do we talk to ourselves, can be an effective tool. Hearing is the most underdeveloped resource available to master our minds and to improve our lives. Our thoughts affect our feelings, choices and actions. Positive thinkers are more optimistic, confident and successful. Their effect is contagious and raises their friends, their colleagues and their loved ones.
Beginning in childhood, communion developments. If you ever watched little children, they were listened to talking with themselves, with their babies, action signs, and friends with words and sounds, just like influential adults, especially adults, especially their parents. How parents talk and how they talk with each other and with each other. Gradually, children internalize this sound.
This is a positive development that helps children perform master tasks, in their own comfort, and in acquiring interaction among their companions. Patients and parents are teaching children's patience, but critical or angry models emphasize their children to talk with doubt, frustration, and contempt.
Relatives are raised in dysfunctional families where parents usually provide ineffective role models, from neglect, emotional reaction, excessive control, rejection, or open verbal abuse. Even if well-intentioned parents say to their children not to be ashamed or sad, parents accidentally falsify their children's authentic feelings. This can lead to internalized shame.
The "tyrannical trio:" The Critical, Perfecting and Afflicting
"Tyrannical Trio" consists of three inner voices: The Critic, Perfectionist and Pusher. They work together, strengthen each other and make life. Perfectionist makes the norms ideal, Pusher forces us to reach them and makes a critical mistake that never fails.
Perfectionist expects us to be humanity, ensuring that we can not meet its unprecedented standards; Pusher is a relentless taskmaster, depriving us of pleasure and pleasure; and the critic tells us that it's never quite good. Pusher and Perfectionist can help us achieve our goals if we have a positive perfectionism. But all three of them critically make the most damage and significantly reduce our self-esteem. In addition, attempting something new and making decisions is almost impossible, because things will not work out because of anxiety. In fact we are afraid of our own internal critic. Critical is the essential difference between positive and negative perfectionism.
Most people are not even aware of the amounts they accuse, blame or deny. Many people live with "tyranny". They have around themselves, and they believe for the second time after the fact. There are individuals who believe that they must press and punish themselves to improve or attain anything; otherwise they fear that the couch will end with knots. Never forget that depression entails and rejects themselves, creating greater unhappiness and dissatisfaction in their lives and in their families.
Our own conversation can hurt us with confusion and trapping and can triumph with agonizing attacks and painful emotions. It offers comfort and encouragement, or we feel anxious and unique. It ensures self-discipline and organization, or feel overwhelmed and defeated. This can ruin our lives, job opportunities and relationships, or it can be exploited to increase our self-esteem, achieve our goals, and raise our prospects and enjoyment.
Changing the Communion
Although these inner voices have increased, they can be changed. First, it requires us to become more and more aware of them and to raise awareness of our communion. There are several steps to reforming these voices, which include understanding their motives and norms and learning how to modify and counteract them. There are many things you can do right away.
Until you feel good about your inner voice, you can not change them. Describe the negative self-expression on a daily basis. (Watch this YouTube.) Describing negative self-talk, including all "must" and "no", make them more conscious and selective.
Practicing a positive conversation by treating yourself with a third person. This is the effect of "abstinence" by removing the emphasis on me.
Research has shown that if you call yourself by name, you will start talking to yourself as a third person. It helps you control your emotions because you have less emotionally aroused and gains a greater perspective. In fact, your emotional brain is less likely to become wiser. This small change has a positive positive effect on reducing shame, anxiety and depression. This provides greater clarity and better judgment in working and managing relationships.
Create positive thinking habits. Spend time every day, and during the day, repeat positive conversation. If you say prayers every morning, but you deny yourself for the rest of the day, what words will you have more impact? Try your own conversations to go beyond negative conversation. That way, you can develop a better view and attitude that can lead to better health and decision making and greater success in your relationship and work.
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